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bell hooks' Legacy

12/17/2021

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bell hooks' passing affirms my intuitive feelings that many of our most treasured wisdom keepers will be leaving the earth this year. This is not to bereave us as we remain here grappling with the death throes of extractive capitalism that manifests as a growing behemoth of technocracy, but because their passings are meant signal us to what we need to remember moving into this next critical evolutionary moment. Perhaps they've done their work and now see the need to return to us in other forms. bell hooks will remain one of the most important shapers of my consciousness and work - as a writer, activist, artist, and as a woman. I loved bell hooks because she was always critical and fierce in her eloquent analysis. She was never mushy, but real and honest. She didn't write to please you. She wrote her truth in order to clarify it, to express it, and to stay fully alive.

For me the most influential teaching of bell hooks is "BOTH/AND". She was my first teacher of non-dual philosophy in praxis when I heard her speak live 20 years ago. It blew my mind wide open with a big resonant YES. Most things in life are simply not either/or. To reduce them that way is to enforce the illusion of separation. It's not that we turn away from the reality of pain in order to love. It's rather can we expand our capacity to hold the complexity - the both/ and - and thereby see, feel and love bigger? That truth has stayed with me every day of every year since.

The other central teaching is about Love....

“When angels speak of love they tell us it is only by loving that we enter an earthly paradise. They tell us paradise is our home and love our true destiny.”
― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

There are so many quotes I could pull from this visionary book, but I chose this one today and surprised myself. It's not the usual bell hooks quote, and is drawn from the controversial - and also my favorite -  All About Love. The book is my favorite because it changed my life in very dramatic ways, and forever. It pried open my heart and emboldened me to believe in "love's promise revealed."

I wanted to share this because I needed it today, and because it reveals part of the heart of the message that the enlightened hooks tried over and over to tell us, just as MLK and Maya Angelou did. If we want love in this world, we have to BE IT. We didn't come here just to suffer, we came here to re-member how to live in earthly paradise. And if we want a r-evolution in the way things are going here, it will have to come from a profound depth of love. Anything else remains in the dimness of self-loathing (mirrored in the loathing of the other for whatever reasons); the mark of colonialism. And always, we have a choice in the matter.

Love is as radical as it gets.
I'm here for paradise, for love's promise revealed.
For being honest about what hurts and being devoted to the beauty: both/and
What are you here for?


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Honoring Malidoma Somé

12/9/2021

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There are those people who, with their words & legacy, change you for a lifetime without ever even meeting them; who reflect a part of your own future self in the generous sharing of their personal story and vision. Malidoma Patrice Somé was one of those people for me. He passed on today as a shaman, writer, way-seer and translator of Spirit for thousands of people. I lit a candle and have a bowl of water set out for him and all the members of his extended "village". I'm remembering our recent Grief Ritual as part of Rites of Passage: 20/20 Vision (glimpsed here), and the eloquence of grief & grieving in indigenous cultures like the Dagara of Burkino Faso where tears were given a sacred place of belonging. Malidoma taught me that my grief has a place in creating Beauty on Earth. That my grief is part of what keeps me well; keeps me seeking for and returning Home in a world that offers us everything but real homecoming.

Knees down on the earth, my face and hands covered with tears, snot and dirt, under the canopy of trees, I am looking into a womb of green leaves and flowers made by our own communal hands, guarded on either side by two elder Black women, their faces covered in white ash. I hear the primal wailing of women to my left and right, and the joyous singing of women behind me, drums going steady in the background. I am grieving for all that I have lost in the past year, knowing this would be one of the few times when it would be OK for me to let it all go and not “hold it all together”. In that moment, I just couldn’t anymore. As I open my eyes and look to my left and my right, I see one of my apprentices on either side of me, face down on the earth. This after giving them an impossible instruction to “watch and not participate”. So much for that… They too needed this. In this humbling moment there is no hierarchy among us – we are all daughters of the Earth, come to pay our grievances, come from long lineages of people who had been betrayed, forgotten, but who still live in us. We call to them at the grief shrine with voices and tears choked since girlhood – calling for return to our truer state of being, calling for an end to suffering; no words are needed. The women around me come and go as their grief waxes and wanes. We witness each other in this raw state. There is nothing to hide. And no questions asked. Then at some point, having found the natural end to my grief that had moments before felt so all-consuming, I walked back to the “the village” behind me to be welcomed in a way I had never been before in my life. I was received by the village I had dreamed of for 3 years, and had sacrificed so much for. I entered in as the orphan I was – to the arms of dozens of women proclaiming: “Welcome Home! Welcome Home!”

This is the memory I will always have of Malidoma's legacy. A homecoming for all of us who dared to expose ourselves that day…to the tears, the laughter, the earth, the water, the fire, the stones, the flowers and the forest. As per the traditional ways, we created every aspect of the ritual from start to close in our elemental clans. What needed to rupture, was ruptured. What needed to be soothed, was soothed. This experience would set the tone collectively for Rites of Passage: 20/20 Vision, and for the deep felt sense of vulnerability, belonging, love and communitas that was the plasma that unified us through those intense initiatory days. This, is how we became a village.

I first encountered Malidoma’s work 9 years ago when I read his book “Of Water and the Spirit”. In it, he wrote that until our difficult life experiences could be “ritually seen & heard”, they would “remain dimmed as traumas to cope with, instead of as powerful initiations.” This is why and how I became passionate about creating Rites of Passage as a space for initiation that we as modern, displaced, colonized people no longer had or could even imagine. Moreover, in reading his life story, I witnessed my own difficult journey back & forth between the West and my estranged homeland. Like Malidoma, I too was an orphan in my own peculiar way. Like him, I suffered not only the ravages of colonization, but also that of Christianity – resulting in the collective forgetting and condemnation of our ancestral shamanic ways. And, I too had returned home for a kind of Soul-vision quest to uncover those shamanic origins. Unlike him however, I never had a tribe to welcome me back, elders and loved ones who knew what I was here for. Yet, like him, I too returned to the West to be a bridge, and would never fully belong to any place, being always a nomad who exists in the in-between.

I never met Malidoma in person, and yet his work has inspired so much of my life and creations. While he knew about the ROP project, we never connected directly. I find that strange now, and regret that I didn’t try to reach out to him. I always figured he was too busy, and it was not yet the time, even though in the last year I had become aware that the time was closing in. Perhaps somehow, we were connected by the unseen threads of ritual, and by shared friends.

From that initial encounter with his work, it would be years until I experienced a Dagara Grief Ritual myself. My first one was led by Katja Esser at the Daughters of the Earth gathering held by ALisa Starkweather, and my last by elders Laura Gibbons-Bowman & Lula Christopher as the opening initiation into Rites of Passage: 20/20 Vision this past August. When the directive for 20/20 Vision emerged 4 years ago, I knew that we needed to begin our intensive process with a full-day Dagara Grief Ritual. But it was several years from that knowing until I was connected by my friend and Rites of Passage 2013 collaborator Cindy Parrish, (also co-founder of East Coast Village, a center for Malidoma’s work), with the now-beloved elders who held space for us to grieve together in the forest at Starseed Sanctuary. A Grief Ritual of Women of Color, for Women of Color – in recognition of all the lines that have been colonized in the past 500 years – a return to our knowing, a coming Home to the Earth.

From reading about Malidoma’s native Dagara village 9 years ago, to experiencing “the village” in form – if only for a brief time, in my own small way, I’ve traveled a full circle. From the emergence of Rites of Passage, to the flowering of this past summer’s 20/20 Vision, in honoring origins, I am deeply grateful to Malidoma Somé for sharing seeds that would be planted and then harvested in that garden of shared remembrance.

A much larger circle now closes as this great soul leaves the world of the living and crosses the far shore to become an ancestor. Perhaps if we are lucky, we will have him back as one of the new brave ones who will help guide us onward into the next Passage. It is up to all of us who have been blessed by his transmission – directly and indirectly – to continue the work of honoring grief & praising life in our own unique ways, and to keep the village alive with gratitude and a full heart. Blessings to you Elder Malidoma.
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Thank you to Nicole Combeau for the photos.

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    Pooja Prema

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